Love is a special thing. Love is both a noun and a verb. Love is the connection between people both romantically and platonically. It connects across cities, countries, and even the world. It can be used to describe feelings and connections between people but it can also be used to describe feelings about a brand, food, sports team, colors…the list goes on. The most special thing about love is this; God is love. If humankind is made in the image of God and God is love, then think about what that means for us. Love is what this life is about. Love is what this blog is about.
To start this love blog it may be best to introduce the couple behind this blog. We are Dustin and Stephanie McMillan. We met while attending Rochester College (umm I mean University); both majoring in ministry. We became friends while taking a lot of the same classes and attending various campus events. We were friends for several years before dating in 2017. We started spending more time together after we separately started attending a mentoring group. It was in this mentoring group where Stephanie asked for prayers for an upcoming endometriosis-related surgery. While Stephanie was recovering from this surgery, Dustin messaged her on Snapchat to see how she was doing. It was Dustin’s checking up on Stephanie that would lead to their first date. Dustin proposed to Stephanie while on a walk along the St. Clair River next to the Blue Water Bridge in Port Huron, Michigan.
In April of this year, we were married in Detroit, MI at the Eastern Market with a lot of our friends and family present. Stephanie looked beautiful in her dress. It was a dream come true! Since this blog is to be themed around love, we thought it might be neat to include our vows in this post. However, if you are someone who we are blessed to have in our lives and was at the wedding or if you’d rather not read our vows, just skip ahead.
Everyone might think they know who my favorite superhero might be. No matter what they might guess, they’re wrong. You are my favorite superhero. The best superheroes have certain qualities. They’re strong, have a good sense of justice, put others before themselves, and are full of hope. You have all these qualities and more.
You are the strongest person I know. Everything you have experienced and endured in your life has made you so strong and I admire you so much for it.
Your passion for others is inspiring. You believe that everyone deserves justice, meaning that everyone deserves to be treated fairly and with love.
You are the kindest and happiest person I know, and that energy flows into everyone you encounter. Speaking of others, you’re always putting other people before yourself. You go out of your way to make sure other people have what they need, are happy, and comfortable before you take care of yourself, especially your students. The way you love them and care for them makes me love and admire you even more.
You are so full of hope. You and I have already encountered our fair share of sticky situations and crappy circumstances, but you have always found a way to find the good in the situation and figure out a way for us to pull through. And, I know you always will. You are my favorite superhero. I always expected to find my Lois Lane, but I found my Superwoman. Stephanie Eugene, I promise to always love you.
I promise to always lift you up and support you in all areas of life.
I promise to always look out for your needs and your desires.
I promise to always take care of you, but give you the space to take care of yourself.
I promise to always go to the fridge and get you a Dr. Pepper.
I promise to always be your partner in ministry, in life, and in every adventure we are to take.
I once asked someone how they knew they were in love. They said, “I knew because when I was pursuing God with everything I had, I looked next to me and saw my wife right next to me.”
Stephanie, I love you so much and I can’t wait to get started and do this thing with you.
Dustin, I am so thankful for every moment in our lives that have brought us to where we are today. From the many classes together to you stealing all of the cookies out of the cafeteria for me. To you texting me to check up on me after surgery. You found me at a time in my life when I thought it would be impossible for someone to love me. Yet, you walked in when I was at the lowest of my lowes and reminded me that I was valuable, cherished and deserved to be respected and loved.
There are so many things I love about you, that make you the person that I am so excited to be standing here and marrying. It all started on our first date. Watching you cry and get so excited at Justice League. It amazes me that you give that emotion and dedication to everything. To your love of superheroes, most importantly, Batman (come on could I be marrying you and not mention Batman someplace in the vows). To your love for me and our relationship, to the brother and sister relationship, you have with Katie, to Dobby, to the students we mentor, your relationship with God, and the list goes on and on.
Thank you for only ever wanting what is best for me and helping me achieve that. That you have always viewed me as your equal.
I love that we view God, life, and people in such a similar matter. I never thought I would find someone who would. And all this time I was searching for you, You were searching for me too.
I love that you love me for all of my flaws and my health issues.
But most importantly you help make me a better me. You help me to love others, you, and myself in God’s love.
Dustin, with all my love, I take you to be my husband. I will love you through the good and the bad times, through joy and sorrow. When life seems easy and when it seems hard, when our love is simple, and when it is an effort.
I promise we will face life together and share and help accomplish each another’s dreams.
I promise to be your equal partner.
I promise to watch every superhero movie with you.
I promise to never take you for granted.
I promise that we will never stop seeking God’s love together and in return, sharing God’s love with everyone we meet.
I promise to not foster more the 10 children at a time.
I promise to be your best friend.
I promise to never stop loving you.
I promise I will work by your side to create a long happy life together lead by God.
Dustin, I love you!
Now for the future. We are about to move into our first home! Recently, we were blessed to have been able to buy a house! This house was not without its…well it’s faults. Stephanie’s dad, Steve, has done so much for us by getting it ready to move into. He, his friend Bill, and their crew have done so much for us by fixing up the house. It is so close to being done and we can’t wait to move in!
As referenced a few times above, we aren’t able to have our own children, but we both love children very much and want to be parents more than anything. Both of us have chosen careers involving children, Stephanie as a children’s pastor and Dustin as a student pastor. However, this isn’t enough for us. It isn’t the same as being parents. So, we hope in the not-too-distant future to be foster parents. We plan on fostering to adopt and we hope you all want to follow along with us on this journey.
Speaking of our ministries, we are hoping there are some exciting developments coming down the pipeline concerning our ministry. So, stay tuned for that.
We plan on using this blog to talk about our lives, but more specifically about the love in our lives. This includes the love between us, the love we have for others, the love we have for our students, the love we have for some of our favorite things, the love we have for our future children and foster children, and the love that God has for all of God’s creation. After all, “We love because he first loved us.”
We hope that you all follow along with this on this journey.